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Monday, April 20, 2009

All done and dusted.

I did it. That whole tribunal thing.
Again.
13 months after I did it last time.
What a year....nothing wrong with you, yes there is...prove it again, nothing wrong with you I said! Prove it again.
I won.
Yet again I made myself sick with all the endless thinking, I didn't sleep much last night and the fact that my appointment wasn't until 3.45pm was painful, a whole day to get through while thinking and thinking.
I went and I spoke, I explained and I told them that actually, I was done with this whole proving business. I explained that I had enough to do, enough to think about, enough to work on, I didn't need, or want to have to explain myself anymore. I told them that a great deal of my life is spent in fixing on the positive, I work hard on being cheerful and focusing on the good things that I have now. I explained that I did not think the amount of money that is stopped every week, every time this happens, is worth the worry caused when I have to go though these tribunals.
I want to be able to laugh, have fun, enjoy life without worrying about how that might look.
I didn't want to read reports saying I am 'unkempt' or see myself described as having ' a blank expression' I have important things to do, I do them, I take control of the things I can control and the rest? I worry about it and I still manage to get them done and am surprised and yet grateful, when the bad things don't happen.
I answered their questions, I cried and I laughed and again, I told them about this blog.
Long story short, they said that the decision was ruled in my favour.
That's great, though this time I found that when it came down to it, I didn't really care.
The best part of the day was when the consultant said " May I stop you for a moment and say that you are the most sane and normal person I have come across and your coping skills are remarkable. There is nothing ' unkempt' about you and you certainly don't have a ' blank expression'.
And then it was done.
I'm not doing that again....really.
I hope that now, having been though this twice in a year it can be noted that I could maybe just be let alone for a while.
That'd be great.
I love this blog and I really love the support I get from you. Thank you lovely blog reading people.
As saving plans go, this is a particularly effective one because now I get a refund on the 29 weeks they have not paid me the incapacity component but really, I don't recommend it. I feel a holiday coming on.

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13 Comments:

Blogger Rachel said...

It seems that so much has changed since that "unkempt" time, Helen. I've loved seeing your progress and missed you horribly when I was "gone." :) So happy to be back. And I miss you now. You're much too far away.

12:05 am  
Blogger Tired Mom of Six said...

Of all the words I can think of to describe you, "unkempt" is not even on the radar screen.

I'm glad someone in the tribunal noticed what I've known all along - how wonderful you actually are.

Sending my love across the pond...mist you xoxo

12:35 am  
Blogger Julie Julie Bo Boolie said...

oh that goodness that rubbish is done with.

2:15 am  
Blogger G said...

Holidays to Canada sound nice :)

3:33 am  
Blogger justLacey said...

Oh Helen, I am so relieved for you. No one should be put through that on an annual basis. It's remarkable the things that people do to others without ever a thought on how it affects them. It makes me wonder how they sleep at night, but my guess is they never give it a second thought. I hope today is a blissfully spent day of relief. Enjoy what you can while you can. That is all we can do.

9:41 am  
Blogger MamaTink said...

I'm with G. Holidays are very well taken to Canada. In August. Just sayin' :)

I'm so very glad you are so very done with all of that.

3:29 pm  
Blogger Clara....in TN said...

Good for you...maybe you taught THEM a lesson!

6:06 pm  
Blogger LosingSanity said...

Glad that it went in your favor and I hope you don't have to deal with this for awhile. I know that every time you have to go through this it causes stress.

12:18 am  
Blogger sarah said...

so glad it worked out for you. I am so happy. holidays are nice :)
hugs
sarah

2:36 pm  
Blogger Cathy said...

You show them who is "unkept" and blank stare! Now tell them to back off or you will bite their ankles!

Love you1

1:32 am  
Blogger Jenn said...

I thought for sure I had commented earlier. Losing my mind I am!! Pffffft anyway - glad it was a success, and no surprise to me that they called you remarkable.
Hope that money you have coming to you starts arriving soon. Holidays sound lovely....
j.

8:09 pm  
Blogger Jenn said...

I thought for sure I had commented earlier. Losing my mind I am!! Pffffft anyway - glad it was a success, and no surprise to me that they called you remarkable.
Hope that money you have coming to you starts arriving soon. Holidays sound lovely....
j.

8:09 pm  
Blogger Jenn said...

Oh look - now it posted my comment twice. I think your blog is playing nasty tricks on me!!

8:10 pm  

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