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Life's a funny old game.
It's been a day of phone calls and questions, answers and details, between us we have made some good progress and are much closer to having mum and Leah all set up and secure. Some of it has made us laugh ( though not much and if honest, the laughing was a tad hysterical) much of it has made us cry but all of it has made us feel closer and more settled.
The funeral director is one of dad's old friends, a fact that makes us all feel very peaceful about him being brought from the hospital to the funeral home which is, quite literally, over the road from here. I quite like that thought. We will be able to see him aain which is good for me, I want to see him looking better than the last time at the hospital, they say he will look much better. The funeral will be on monday at noon...I think it will be beautiful.
When I came home on saturday, I spoke to Jordan and Sophie and made it very clear that from now on there will be absolutely NO tolerance with anything to do with smoking, they are not to smoke anywhere near this house and if I see tobacco I will throw it out, the same goes for lighters, roll up papers, in the bin, no questions asked.
Last night Sophie came home and said she had smoked her last cigarette, bless her- she had given away her cigarettes and told me she would never smoke again, she said she didn't want me to worry about having to watch her get cancer and so she'd stopped. Today has been a hard day for her and she called as she was due to leave work and said " come and meet me and stop me buying cigarettes on the way home" I am SO proud of her and told her that while she doesn't smoke, I will eat well, if she is taking care of herself, I will take care of me. A good deal. What a good girl. ( albeit a very grumpy one today!!) H said she was a star while I was busy at the hospital, she helped above and beyond the call of duty. I am thrilled to watch them being kind to each other...long may it last. She is 17....SEVENTEEN?!?!? Typical, just getting to be a joy to have around and she'll fly the nest soon (although she says she is staying til she is 30!!)
Jordan hasn't smoked in 2 days either, he has taken up at the gym again and I am hoping he is on a health kick and will stop the disgusting habit for good too.
I bought a swim suit today, lawks a mercy!! Will I ever wear it that's the question! I just love to swim and am feeling so strongly that life is too short to keep putting off what matters or what is fun, whether I will brave the world with all things flapping is another matter, shame they don't do dimmed lighting, women only sessions at the pool!!
So, weary me is off to bed, gathering strength for another day, tomorrow I am having a change, which, they say, is as good as a rest . I have a meeting at school with the education specialist for children in the autistic spectrum, that'll be fun, we are discussing Isaac's " selective muteness" or stubborn git streak, along with his social disorders. Ha! Seth was fretting today about not having people to play with at playtime, Isaac looked at him with a look of absolute incredulity...... "Seff, duss play on your OWN" What's the problem buddy? Shut them all out, run 'round the playground all on your own and have a ball.....on reflection, which of these children appears to have a problem? Life's a funny old game as they say.
The funeral director is one of dad's old friends, a fact that makes us all feel very peaceful about him being brought from the hospital to the funeral home which is, quite literally, over the road from here. I quite like that thought. We will be able to see him aain which is good for me, I want to see him looking better than the last time at the hospital, they say he will look much better. The funeral will be on monday at noon...I think it will be beautiful.
When I came home on saturday, I spoke to Jordan and Sophie and made it very clear that from now on there will be absolutely NO tolerance with anything to do with smoking, they are not to smoke anywhere near this house and if I see tobacco I will throw it out, the same goes for lighters, roll up papers, in the bin, no questions asked.
Last night Sophie came home and said she had smoked her last cigarette, bless her- she had given away her cigarettes and told me she would never smoke again, she said she didn't want me to worry about having to watch her get cancer and so she'd stopped. Today has been a hard day for her and she called as she was due to leave work and said " come and meet me and stop me buying cigarettes on the way home" I am SO proud of her and told her that while she doesn't smoke, I will eat well, if she is taking care of herself, I will take care of me. A good deal. What a good girl. ( albeit a very grumpy one today!!) H said she was a star while I was busy at the hospital, she helped above and beyond the call of duty. I am thrilled to watch them being kind to each other...long may it last. She is 17....SEVENTEEN?!?!? Typical, just getting to be a joy to have around and she'll fly the nest soon (although she says she is staying til she is 30!!)
Jordan hasn't smoked in 2 days either, he has taken up at the gym again and I am hoping he is on a health kick and will stop the disgusting habit for good too.
I bought a swim suit today, lawks a mercy!! Will I ever wear it that's the question! I just love to swim and am feeling so strongly that life is too short to keep putting off what matters or what is fun, whether I will brave the world with all things flapping is another matter, shame they don't do dimmed lighting, women only sessions at the pool!!
So, weary me is off to bed, gathering strength for another day, tomorrow I am having a change, which, they say, is as good as a rest . I have a meeting at school with the education specialist for children in the autistic spectrum, that'll be fun, we are discussing Isaac's " selective muteness" or stubborn git streak, along with his social disorders. Ha! Seth was fretting today about not having people to play with at playtime, Isaac looked at him with a look of absolute incredulity...... "Seff, duss play on your OWN" What's the problem buddy? Shut them all out, run 'round the playground all on your own and have a ball.....on reflection, which of these children appears to have a problem? Life's a funny old game as they say.
posted by The other me | 10:26 pm
5 Comments:
Oh Helen please please please please do go swimming! It's such a marvelous way to feel better and so therapeutic. I know it's hard to walk out in that bathing suit but trust me.. once you get into the water it's just fine. And hey, if I can manage it in a hot pink bathing suit (which sadly was all they had in my size at the time of purchase) then you can do it too!
Kudos to Sophie on quitting smoking.. you may tell her from me that kissing is so much nicer when you're kissing a non-smoker ;)
Hugs and Peace to you on Monday at Noon...
Hang in there sweetie, once you can get past the funeral and all the arrangements I truly believe it does get a little easier. When we lost Rich’s mom in October, the whole process of making arrangements seemed barbaric to me and I just became a screaming kvetching nightmare. Having the memorial service (be it that details are still brought up to this day) did help us both in many ways.
Give your bigguns a hug for quitting, I’ve quit again now for three weeks. . .I think we may actually kicked it this time. It is just so hard, the risk of getting cancer just is enough to scare us out of it (I’ve been sharing your blog with hubby).
Big hugs to ya!
You must be so full of pride for Jordan and Sophie making such a positive change in their lives. What brilliant, wonderful kids you've raised Helen.
I saw to heck with bad lighting...once you're in the water, you can imagine yourself a mermaid, and enjoy every moment of the pool :)
Big Hugs. And prayers to you for Monday.
~Lisa~
Congrats to Sophie and Jordan! Its a habit that I need to break as well. I watched both my grandparents die of smoking related illnesses and THEN chose to pick up the habit. Dumb, Dumb, Dumb! Now is time to put it down.
And put that bathing suit on and enjoy a nice swim! I feel you though, I hate to go out in the bathing suit. I feel self conscious. But, even my fat butt deserves to enjoy the water. LOL.
Well, I am glad that you were able to get through the arrangements. Im sure he will look very peaceful!
Ill continue to pray for you and yours! Hugs!
I love to swim too Helen! It is a great escape at times.
You have done an amazing job raising your children that they are willing to give up their bad habits Helen. Sophie sounds like she is getting to be a joy to have around. I hope they are both able to follow through.
I love what Isaac told Seth. That is so cute and true.
I will be thinking of you on Monday and all the days before. Take care.
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